My husband’s brother has been engaged to this woman who is considerable older than him for a few years. They were supposed to get married in May, then in April. Nothing came of it. So all of a sudden, two days ago they call and let the family know they are getting married in less than a month. They have a justice of a peace wedding on a Saturday with the reception in the bar. Classy. Mind you, they don’t send out invitations. So now my husband and I are scrambling to buy plane tickets, get a kennel, HOPEFULLY get time off of work to travel the thousand miles away to the wedding and pay for a rental car. When all was said and done, we paid over $1,200 yesterday just to travel to a justice of a peace ceremony. My husband is so mad at the last minute ball drop that we are only going to give $100 for a gift instead of a customary larger gift.

Why do some people not understand basic consideration for their guests to plan ahead? Do they forget that all immediate family does not leave 20 minutes away from them? The only reason we are going to this “ceremony” is to respect his parents. We are not too fond of spending thousands of dollars to go see a 5 minute ceremony for two people who are too drunk 60% of the time to understand other people work in this world. We are not free to travel at whim. Have you had any experience with people just dropping a wedding/JOP ceremony on you and just “expect” you to show up as if you owe them something? I would think this woman who is 55 would know what the proper etiquette is, but she thinks it is ok to surprise everyone and expect we show up to her “wedding.”

Again, if these two complain about the $100 gift, should we state how we spent over $1,200 to fly out to see them, so the gift represents the cost of unexpected travel and inconsiderate forewarning? Or should we just keep our lips shut if they complain?
Poodie, well if they were considerate to people maybe people would be considerate to them. They are drunks who think the world owes them everything. Even his father is pissed because he is trying to get time off of work as well. The entire family is annoyed that a JOP ceremony and party in the bar constitutes a wedding that requires us all to dish out more than a grand for.
Well, if you don’t like the gift option, you can yell at my husband. You guys think I am the seething one? You should see him. He just started a brand new job and it was embarrassing for him to go ask for time off literally two weeks after starting his new contract. I guess, we should celebrate drunken haggard love instead of being realistic. We are going to spend a lot of money to see two drunks who probably won’t even show up get married. My husband even called yesterday to tell his brother this wedding better happen, and he better not cancel like the last two. Yes, they cancelled the last two leaving us hanging. That is why we are both pissed. Some of you should stop acting like this wedding is something special. Amazing, you think since I am the woman I must be the bitter one. You can’t see that my husband is actually angrier than I ever could be.

How would you feel if they cancelled two weddings on you? You guys act like we should be happy they are marry
Seamstress, thanks for your response.. I actually told my husband, let’s not go and send a $500 check instead. I think I will use your answer regarding their complain about $100. I know they are going to complain. They want a lot of money.
Lisa, if that is your opinion. No one would show up. Including his parents and us. You blame me, but you refuse to see that I mentioned everyone is angry about the same thing I am. Everyone is pissed. You attack me as the bad guy because I am the sister in law, but you don’t attack his parents or his brother for feeling the same way? How about you get over yourself?

If I was in your situation, they would have received a nicely worded letter back explaining that I could not schedule to travel to their location on such short notice, but that I wish them a nice wedding. I would have enclosed a check, and that would have been that.

I wouldn’t say anything about the gift. If they complain (which would be very rude on their part), I would simply say "Unfortunately, last minute travel is very expensive" and leave it at that. That might be a little confrontational to you, but that’s what I’d say. They really have no rebuttal because it’s true, it’s their fault, and after all they’re being rude saying anything at all.

You know, it make me throw up in my mouth a little every time I see CNN and Fox News orgasming over the upcoming big-whoopety-do Royal Wedding or Donald Trump’s possible bid for the Presidency. This is a good 80% of what they talk about

Meanwhile in the real world. Corpses lie unattended in death all over Japan as the worst nuclear meltdown in human history occurs. Despotic governments murder their own citizens in droves every day as the Middle East burns down in an apocalyptic pyre that threatens to destablize the world, and all the while the polar icecaps STILL melt, Africa is still a cauldron of epic misery, and BP is just looking for new and inventive ways to rape the ocean to death yet again.

But we all gotta know where Kate Middleton buys her shoes!!

**BARFS**

Your thoughts?

MQ: Name some good songs about cynicism, the end of the world, royal weddings, nuclear or environmental catastrophes, or anything related.
Thanks Opiner, I’ll check that out

Where You from Wicked Child?

Also..if ya’ll have another meeting in my chatroom…one of you let me know, pl0x. Thanks,
Jon, I think what you’re thinking of is Orson Welles radio broadcast of War Of The Worlds. He sis it over the radio in the style of a Newscast, as if it were actually happening, and a lot of people thought it was real and freaked out. There was basically a mass panic over it.

I hear ya. Know what the top 5 "trending now’s" are on Yahoo?

1. JWoww
2. Jason Priestly
3. Jon Bon Jovi (whhhhhhhy?????!!!!!)
4. Kate Hudson
5. Happy Meals toys (wtf)

The news media is more into ratings these days, and unfortunately 95% of the viewing public wants dirt on their favorite celebs. They don’t give a sht about what’s going on around the world, or in their own country for that matter.

Have you ever seen the movie Idiocracy? If not, I highly recommend it. It’s about a guy who time warps 500 years into the future and everyone is REALLY stupid. He ends up saving the world by teaching them to use water on crops instead of Mountain Dew or something like that. That’s where we’re headed, Darth.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0387808/

MA- Rage Against the Machine- Vietnow

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