Do you even care what others are spending on their weddings & why?
ByIt seems there are people on here that feel the need to ask what everyone is spending on their weddings and then insult them over it. I mean, if you’re asking an actual question about how much something would cost to get a gauge of what you’re up against, fine. But, why do I feel like some people ask just to make themselves angry or prove a point that we’re a bunch of idiots?
My budget is $10,000 for the entire wedding. I’m spending more on entertainment because I want this to be a great night out for everyone, and I’m doing a ton of stuff myself to save where I can. But, I’m not about to be angry because someone else is spending $150,000. Hey, whatever floats your boat! I also don’t care if you want McDonald’s catering your reception.
There are people here planning their weddings from all over the world. The cost is obviously going to be greater in certain areas & it seems like some people don’t get it. Why all the hostility? Wedding or not, planning an event is expensive.
I am by no means throwing money around for nothing. 10k is too much? For the ceremony, the Officiant, the florist, the food, the alcohol, dress, bridesmaids dresses, jewelry, shoes, the tuxes, the cake, the DJ, the favors, the photographer and the other 1000 details . . .
Oh, and the invitations, the programs, the menu cards, wedding rings . . .
I don’t have parents who are paying for the wedding. My fiance & I are paying for everything ourselves in cash and are not getting into credit card debt.
That’s a really interesting point. I don’t see a problem with people asking what everyone else is spending . Maybe they just want to gauge if they are spending too much or maybe they are just curious.
What I do have a problem with is people being critical of those who spend more than a few thousand dollars. Fizzy said it perfectly – spending LESS on your wedding does not mean you are more in love or more virtuous than those who spend MORE. It does make you sound like a total a ss however.
I’ve almost stopped using Answers because of all the judgemental brides who give everyone lip or a thumbs down for expressing their opinions or for simply telling the truth. Unfortunately I’m addicted to this site and I just try to take the bad with the good. Thanks for posting this question, I’m glad I’m not alone on this.
No – it’s not my wedding
Oh yeah just make sure it’s a open bar!!!!
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i used to care now money and materialistic things are the path to destruction and greed in my humble opinion…
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My wedding cost a total of $10 for the cake. I wanted to get married for love, not for a big bash and money.
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I didn’t spend a lot on the wedding I had, and I am glad, because I am not married anymore… well, really, I think people who save the money for their futures is more practical, especially since we are heading straight for a recession…
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That hostility comes from a false belief that less expensive weddings are somehow more virtuous. Those individuals just have an inflated sense of pride over having an average, or less expensive, wedding. The fact is we should all be encouraging each other on here to have great weddings & be great hosts, no matter what the bottom line is.
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Wow it must be nice to be able to spend your money that way! I say that the $10,000 would be better spent as a down payment on a house and run off to Las Vegas and get married. Then have your guests over to the house for a reception once you get back!
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NOT AT ALL!!!! I’ll Do what I want & I Hope you’ll do what you want. The Same goes for everybody else. Live & Let Live
I Wish EVERYONE well in making their dreams come true. P.S. There is a site called http://www.bridal-ideas-for-you.com that might help your family & friends
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Mines going to come to about £2,000… Smart shopping and D-I-Y all the way!
On our budget we had 2 choices… quality Versus quantity!
1) small inimate wedding with 20 guests and sit down meal, paying for all food and drinks. Bigger slice of budget on my dress, have lovely favours and more expensive attendants gifts.
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2) Invite everyone we wanted to (about 130-150), do the buffet ourselves with help from family and friends, Not pay for any alcohol (cash bar- not such a no no in UK), no favours… having a chocolate fountain for desert (no cake) DJ, lots of fun, made in china dress…
Yes we went for option 2!
And no… not cos bigger party = more presents… because we wouldnt have wanted everyone else not to come… its supposed to be the happiest day of our lives and we wanted to share it with all the people we love.
Both sets of parents are paying around 1/4 each and we’re paying 1/2.
We could have waited and saved and got married in the future with more money… but whats the point? I wouldnt have wanted to splurge… its not in my nature! Bargain hunting all the way!
Some of the things i have chosen to do some people may feel are tacky, cheesy or corny… GOOD! I am cheesy corny and most of all FUN! The day is a huge melting pot of mine and my fiance’s personalitys. For instance… walking down ailse to shania twaine from this moment… but leaving to love is in the air!
As long as the day is memerable for all the right reasons… who cares how much it cost?!
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I don’t care how little or how much anyone spends on their wedding. It’s their wedding and their money, if they’re happy about it what should it matter if I "agree" or not. I was wondering the same thing as you the other day. I don’t understand why there are people who are so concerned about what others do. People in general need to stop judging others and start minding their own business.
I’m spending more money than some people would (and a lot less than others) but we’re not going into debt for it and will have extra left over for a down payment on a house. We’re happy with what we’re doing, what others think doesn’t matter to us. We’re spending the money for the memories.
This is probably one of the most important day in a lot of people’s lives, they should be allowed to spend as much or as little as they want. People deserve to have the day that THEY want. The day is about them, not anyone else.
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Not at all, we paid what we could afford without getting in to debt and we had the day that we wanted, it may not suit other people but we enjoyed it and so did our guests. It’s not for me to say what others should spend on their wedding. I know some people dream of a big wedding while others are happy to elope (although it seems a lot (BUT NOT ALL) of people who elope decide they want the big Vow Renewal after) each that’s a decision only the couple can make.
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I think everybody is different and it is their business just how much they want to spend on their wedding day. I think its amusing when they want a wedding that costs a huge amount, but then expect their parents to fork out for it. They should at least work within their OWN budgets, but at the end of the day, the parents could always say No.
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What a person chooses to spend on their wedding is their business. I’m happy for the brides to be, but not critical or curious about their budget.
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I agree, as soon as you mention the word wedding to any business the price immediately escalates, so whatever can be done, whether it made or bartered or borrowed do it. I think the higher the price of the wedding the more you have been taken advantage of, there no justification in the price of some items. I made wedding and bridesmaid dresses for years and loved it, i didn’t charge megga money because it wasn’t justified and i thought it unfair, most people go into massive debt for weddings to be perfect, whilst most of the time it is just lining the pockets of extremely greedy people.
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I, personally, don’t care what other people have to spend on THEIR wedding. What I do like reading are the ways that they SAVED money by finding bargains or getting help or other USEFUL information that I could possibly try for my wedding. Most people don’t have a million…if you do, lucky you…for the rest of us, let’s just keep sharing ideas and useful information and make OUR day a special one…
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I don’t care how much others are spending, but when I posted my question about spending $6000 or $7000 on my wedding, it was because I started thinking that we were getting taken for thousands. I don’t know what destination weddings cost, so I’m trying to gage if I’m spending too much or not.
Also, I’m not having McDonald’s cater the reception, but I am having beer/pizza/wings, maybe a clam bake or shrimp boil, and probably pulled pork or chicken. It’s going to be in my back yard, and people are expected to wear shorts and t-shirts. Very casual!
What does bother me are the people who post questions about spending $100,000 for a wedding and then saying they have to cut things out because they are running over budget. I’m sorry, but if you have that kind of money to spend on your wedding, you can afford almost anything, you have a wedding planner, and you don’t need the "common people" for answers. I think they are just posting to brag, and I don’t like that. There’s nothing wrong with having money – if I really wanted a $100,000 wedding, I could’ve done it, but there are better things to spend money on I think. Those people are also the ones who tend to put everyone else down. The only person I’ve seen here with a big budget, and not demeaning, is "Soon2BMrsGupta"
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BTB 4/5/08 – Sedona AZ
It sounds like you are going to have a great party.something for everyone. As a quest, I want to remember the wedding as the most fun I’ve had in a long time. One wedding I went to the DJ. was one of the most important there, He played the most fun music and went overtime, ever one got into the act even old Grannie.
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my budget is under 3k, my girl friend is spending near 10k, another friends budget is 40k (her parents are paying)
i think it’s crazy what some ppl spend on their weddings but it’s their money to spend.
i just wouldn’t do it even if i had the money to spend
i won’t ever knock someone for what they spend on the wedding if it’s to get what they want
i’m just a firm believer in not going in to debt to have the wedding they want.
costs vary for all parts of the country. there is no set costs for things. so what i want in little old delaware might cost me 5 times that in nyc or la.
it’s just the way things vary
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I agree, I do not know why people ask these questions, but I do know why I like answering them!
I have a very limited budget, around $2,500, and I am happy that I can share my ideas with other brides who are on a tight budget!
I think that people can spend whatever they are comfortable with. If you makes 6 figures, a $100,000 wedding probably just feels a lot more normal and comfortable to that person than it would to others. I try not to judge how much others are spending, although I will definitely say that before I started planning a wedding I had never imagined how much some people spend! But everyone should do what is right for them, as with other aspects of life.
I do think though that in general, the more you spend, more expectations come with it. That is something that would stress me out a lot! So for me simple is best and saving the rest makes me feel most comfortable.
I hope everyone has a great wedding day
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B2B
I don’t really care. Now if I thought one of my friends or someone in my family was going to go bankrupt with a wedding they can’t afford I might say something.
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I think it’s cool to see what other’s are spending and what they consider priceless. I also like to see what others are up against and what they have planned to get around their obstacles. I don’t understand the hostility myself. If someone can afford to pay 10k or 100k for one night in their life without screwing themselves royally I say go for it! This is a once in a lifetime deal, most won’t get a vow renewal. They have worked HARD for their money and they deserve everything that they dream about! Personally I’m spending less on my wedding because my fiance promised me a vow renewal in 5-10 years and I want to be able to save as much as I can to plan for that!
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b2b 6/14/08
That’s a really interesting point. I don’t see a problem with people asking what everyone else is spending . Maybe they just want to gauge if they are spending too much or maybe they are just curious.
What I do have a problem with is people being critical of those who spend more than a few thousand dollars. Fizzy said it perfectly – spending LESS on your wedding does not mean you are more in love or more virtuous than those who spend MORE. It does make you sound like a total a ss however.
I’ve almost stopped using Answers because of all the judgemental brides who give everyone lip or a thumbs down for expressing their opinions or for simply telling the truth. Unfortunately I’m addicted to this site and I just try to take the bad with the good. Thanks for posting this question, I’m glad I’m not alone on this.
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i don’t care that others spend more on theirs than i did on mine, but i do think people living above their means when it comes to their wedding i FOOLISH! a couple who makes $100,000 a year combined should not be having a $80,000 wedding. bad way to start a marriage… in huge debt.
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